As husbands, wives and parents we are responsible before God to raise our children in His ways. We’ve all heard people say that children don’t come with instruction manuals, but the truth is that God’s Holy Word is to be our guide. Below is a list of scriptures. As our husbands are the God appointed spiritual leaders of our homes – servant leadership – I’ve included scripture specific to them. There is an equal amount of scriptures for wives. Be sure, wives, that you are familiar with God’s Word to you! We will be held accountable in all these things. We must live out the Word of God, teach it, model it, study it, do it. Below are some selected scriptures that I believe are foundational and helpful guides to staying right before God and follow Jesus’ His Holy Word breathed out for our edification if we do as He commands us. There are many, many more scriptures that I did not include here so create your own list that helps you focus on the areas of your life that need strengthening in the Lord. Make a new list each year. Read through this list quickly, keeping the immediate family unit in mind as you read them. If something jumps out at you, focus on that. The emphasis in the following verses is my own.
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9 ESV) (God is serious about His commands to us and about fathers instilling God’s ways in their children. He knows we are quick to forget so he wants us to talk of them regularly and to post them in written form for us everywhere.)
Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. (Colossians 3:9-10 ESV)
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, (Ephesians 4:15 ESV)
Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3:19 ESV)
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3:21 ESV)
Hearing and Doing the Word Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. (James 1:19-20 ESV)
But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. (James 1:22 ESV)
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. Suffering for Righteousness’ Sake Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. (1 Peter 3:7-9 ESV)
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, Ephes. 5:25
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. (1 Thessalonians 5:11 ESV)
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:29-32 ESV)
The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence. Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. (Proverbs 10:11-12 ESV)
For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 15:4-6 ESV)
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. (Colossians 3:12-17 ESV)
It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:26-28 ESV)
Jesus came to serve, not to be served. We are to follow His example and to seek to serve more than to be served.
Your immediate family is your primary mission field. They come before any outside employment or ministry work.
God has more for you. Dig deeper. Know His Word. Do His Word.
Be encouraged. Press on!